Which married couples do not know – as soon as the engagement ring sparkles on your finger, you are overwhelmed with well-intentioned advice and ideas from all sides. This can be unsettling and make you question your own priorities. In this blog, we’ll give you five things you would regret at your wedding. So don’t let anyone talk you into them!
1. not paying attention to priorities
Many brides and even some grooms are familiar with it: shortly after the engagement, the Pinterest search starts. You are overwhelmed by all the wonderful offers and possibilities. You quickly get into a whirlwind and have the feeling that you could do this at your own wedding. Then there are the ideas and “but that’s what you do”’s from family and friends. And suddenly you forget your own priorities. Don’t let yourselves be unsettled, swayed or overwhelmed. Have a clear idea of your dream wedding at the beginning of the planning process, set priorities and stick to them.
2. not sticking to your budget
The above is also the most important tip for sticking to your budget. Prioritizing helps you to stick to the budget you set at the beginning. What is at the top of the priority list can also have its price. Choose service providers that suit you and your ideas. When it comes to the items at the bottom of the list, look at the budget, ask yourself whether you really need it and don’t let anyone force anything on you that isn’t important to you. This also applies to the guest list. The number of people is one of the most important factors for the budget. You decide who should be there (not your parents or in-laws).
3. allow too many guest contributions
Speaking of guests – they often almost feel like they “have” to contribute something to the wedding. After more than 100 weddings that we have already had the pleasure of organizing, we would like to give you this tip from the bottom of our hearts: less is more! Short, concise, emotional, good speeches – yes please! Maximum 2! Funny games and PowerPoint presentations with children’s photos – rather not. Or very limited. Often not all guests find this funny or exciting, the bride and groom are not given balanced consideration and the program is overcrowded with too many contributions. Technology is needed on site, which cannot be tested in advance and usually has to be organized at the last minute. The games and presentations ALWAYS take longer than announced, making it difficult to plan the evening. Fun games and presentations are therefore perhaps better suited to the next birthday party.
4. do not hire live musicians or a DJ
A wedding ceremony without live music and a party without a DJ are simply not the same. The most emotional part of the wedding, the ceremony, is wonderfully accompanied and even more emotional when it is has live music. Even if you don’t necessarily want live musical entertainment, it’s really worth it for the ceremony and is often still affordable. Hiring a DJ for the party is also worthwhile. He brings professional equipment (sound and light) and helps to create the right atmosphere, which doesn’t really come up with a playlist on the boombox.
5. do not hire professional service providers
It is very tempting, especially if you want to keep an eye on the budget, to fall back on acquaintances or cheaper semi-professional service providers. Uncle Marco can take the photos, he does them so well at family celebrations. And your best friend is so good with make-up and doing hair, she can do the bridal styling. There are several reasons why you shouldn’t do this: Professional service providers are specialists in their field and bring years of experience and lots of know-how. They are also “outsiders” to your wedding, no matter how well you get on, and can therefore provide professional support with the necessary distance. Uncle Marco and your best friend will certainly be happy to be able to enjoy your big day without any nervousness or pressure and to be able to put their skills to the test at another event.
Bonus: Don’t hire a wedding planner
It’s the same with the organization, planning and execution of the wedding. Wanting to do everything yourself is the downfall of many bridal couples. You don’t build a house on your own, without an architect or construction manager. So let a professional help you plan this big event. And you will also be glad to have professional support on the day itself. The groomsmen and bridesmaids should not have to take over the work of a wedding planner, but should be able to be there for the bride and groom and even a groomsman has other tasks than a wedding planner.
Our bridal couple from America, Alexia and Jonathan, have implemented all of the above tips. Thank you very much for your trust and the great cooperation over long distances and in other time zones! It was a pleasure to plan your wedding and support you!
If you are still looking for support or would like more tips for your wedding planning, please contact us for a non-binding initial consultation!
